My two grandmothers – both dead, sadly – were very different. One was a bawdy, emotional, tough Yorkshirewoman and the other a brooding, loyal, and equally tough, Irishwoman. Despite their differences, they got on, thanks to a mutual, unspoken respect for one other and the kind of deep-rooted values you could only get through growing up in the 1930s.
A couple of things they definitely agreed on:
– Nobody likes a show-off.
– If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. Or at the very least, wait until you’re in private, with people you trust who’ll never blab.
Read what happened on today’s Guardian Blind Date between Will and Sarah and see if you can work out why, this week, I’m listening to Nana and Grandma more closely than I ever have before.
Photograph: Alicia Canter; James Drew Turner, both for the Guardian
Note: Sometimes it’s better to keep your mouth shut, and I do it more often than you’d think. When I do have something to say, all the comments I make are based on the answers the Guardian chooses to publish, which may have been changed by a journalist to make for better copy. The participants in the date are aware this may happen, I assume, and know these answers will appear in the public arena. I am sure, in real life, they are cool people. I am critiquing the answers, not the people themselves. If you are the couple in this date and want to give your side of the story, get in touch and I will happily publish any rebuttal.